While reading this, immerse yourself in my words, so that your understanding can more deepen.

See, when we enter a relationship for the first time, meaning when we make an effort to connect with someone on a deep emotional level, if there is extensive communication throughout the day and a profound emotional connection is established, it is essential to understand how to avoid getting attached. Suppose this is happening with you; then you need to understand how to create attachment with someone. I am not saying that we can play roles like, for instance, if I am a son, and my father passes away, it will sadden me. However, if I cannot overcome that grief and keep mourning incessantly, my life will become problematic. You know this, right? It's a fact, a reality. If I don't overcome or move beyond it, my life will be in perpetual sorrow. It is crucial to comprehend that I am not him; I am not that person who has passed away. Therefore, if you apply this approach to everyone, disconnecting from each person's emotional psychology and deep connection, it becomes vital to tell yourself at that very moment that you are not them.

When you say to yourself, "I am not that person," you are essentially placing a barrier in your psychology or emotions, indicating that you are not allowing the grief to overpower you. Because many times, when we engage in extensive conversations with someone, our minds trigger feelings through words. For instance, when I say "love," feelings are triggered in your mind. These words give your mind a direction, and sensations occur in your body. To ensure that you are not continually remembering and connecting with that person who has left, it is crucial to repeatedly tell yourself that you are not them. When anyone leaves you, whether in a relationship or any kind of connection, as I mentioned in my example with my father, it is necessary to minimize the pain to the extent that you don't feel devastated when they depart. Because often, when we converse extensively with someone, our minds trigger feelings through words. When we talk, feelings are triggered in our minds, and sensations occur in our bodies.

Therefore, repeatedly telling yourself that you are not them and maintaining a sense of balance is the best way to handle it. I follow this method myself. Whenever I get too close to someone, I remind myself that I am not them. So, whenever anyone leaves, whether in a relationship or any kind of connection, if you are not that person, the pain won't be as intense. Remind yourself at that moment that you are not them. When I get close to someone, I repeatedly remind myself that I am not them.

This is the best way to keep yourself balanced and not let the pain overwhelm you when someone leaves. This technique is effective in maintaining emotional stability. It helps to separate yourself from the emotions and allows you to look at things with a clear perspective, without being overly affected by them.

For now, thank you.

If you have a problem that you've been struggling with or something you can't seem to understand, feel free to email me at [email protected]. In my next blog, I'll try to view and understand that problem from my perspective, suggesting what I might do if I were in your shoes, providing you with an additional viewpoint.