How to Get Out of a Toxic Relationship.

Let’s understand this deeply. When two people are attracted to each other in any way, that's a relationship. But I’m not talking about love here. The word "love" has been misrepresented by movies and media. The real meaning of love is something else, which I have discussed multiple times in my previous blogs. You can read them for more clarity. But today, let's focus solely on relationships and explore them deeply because entering into a bad relationship is like messing up your own mind completely.

When you get attached to someone in any way, whether emotionally or otherwise, you start depending on that person. For example, if you share your thoughts with someone, you are now dependent on them for that sharing. Now, the other person will either listen to you attentively when they feel like it or completely ignore you when they don’t. This dependency is the biggest mistake in relationships.

Let’s go deeper. A relationship is supposed to be a good bond between two people, but today, people have distorted its meaning. Talking late at night, ignoring all other important work—this is how relationships are often treated. In reality, you don’t need anyone. On the surface, it may seem like you do, but as humans, we don't actually need anyone.

We are already in an attraction with every element of the universe—the trees, the air—everything around us. If you realize this, you’ll be in love with everything, not just one person. But when you're in a bad relationship, your routine changes, your way of thinking changes, and your mind becomes clouded. You start depending on the other person, and they will use you in whichever way they see fit. This misuse might be direct or indirect, but it's always there.

This is the major impact of being in a bad relationship. Either be in a good relationship, where there is a true bond between two people, or else you will find yourself constantly asking, “What am I even talking about with this person?” It’s essential to recognize whether or not there is a deep interest and connection before entering a relationship. If not, you will end up just discussing random topics without any substance.

Interest is a very deep aspect. If there is no common ground of interest, there’s nothing meaningful to talk about. It becomes purely physical attraction, and the emotional connection will never be built properly. So, before entering any relationship, it’s important to understand whether the other person's interests align with yours and if you're truly compatible.

If you're already in a relationship, always remember not to depend on the other person. Rather, they should be the ones depending on you. Why? Because this is your life. Understand that everything comes to an end—everyone will die one day, including you and the person you're in a relationship with. So, if you're prepared for this eventuality, then go ahead. Otherwise, there's nothing wrong with staying single.

But actually, you're never truly single. As long as the universe exists, as long as the air around you exists, you're connected to everything. So, how can you be single? You and I are made from the same energy form. The only difference is on the thought level, and thoughts are just a stream of information. You can think anything, but it’s important to observe your thoughts and reflect on them before drawing any conclusions.

Look at things practically. If a conversation doesn’t solve your problems, what’s the point? Physical attraction might exist, and you may have experienced that already. But what comes next? Ask yourself this directly. Our problem is that we don’t look at things directly; we get too caught up in emotions, which leads to confusion.

You need to observe that relationships, in essence, are just a way of interacting. If it’s about learning and growing, then it’s great. Otherwise, it’s meaningless. Focus on yourself, your thoughts, and how you can grow. People who truly connect with you will join you on their own. I’m not saying you should avoid relationships entirely—just that people will come and go, and things will continue to happen. As long as you know what you’re doing and why you’re doing it, that’s what matters.

That’s all for now. We’ll meet again soon. Thank you.