Look, what happens at our Earlier stage—meaning, when we are around 18-19 years old—it is very common for us to get into relationships and then break up. After getting into it, try to understand the clarity fully to know the real problem and how we can overcome it.
Look, what happens at our Earlier stage—meaning, when we are around 18-19 years old—it is very common for us to get into relationships and then break up. This happens very quickly. I have just come out of new things, so I will clearly explain my perspective on this today and will try to see the clarity of it myself—how this happens. Look, the benefit is either you understand this when you are in it or before getting into it. After getting into it, try to understand the clarity fully to know the real problem and how we can overcome it.
When you like someone, you see them and find them attractive, and they are also interested in you. The first thing that attracts is beauty. If we keep ourselves clean and look good, people will like us because beauty attracts. This is a fact. However, beauty isn't everything. There are always exceptions. When I saw someone for the first time, the first thought was how beautiful she was. Beauty attracted me first.
Then, we want to get involved. We want to know what the other person thinks. This is where it started wrongly. The first thing that attracted me was beauty, and relying on beauty alone is wrong. Just because something looks good doesn't mean it is good inside. People can say anything, but they might be completely corrupt inside.
So, we start talking, but change is inevitable. You have to understand that if you like someone and you know that they won't be with you forever—today or tomorrow, many problems will come. The initial pleasure you got will decrease over time. Then, you want to exit. Understand this: as things progress, they might suddenly break. This happens to everyone.
Now, the point to understand here is if this is happening, try to understand your thoughts. At that time, my thoughts were that she was beautiful, I wanted to talk to her, and I wanted to be involved and make a long-term relationship. I would get into relationships quickly, and they would end quickly. This happens with everyone.
Now we understand the problem. The actual problem is whether these thoughts are right or wrong. Thoughts are thoughts; they are neither right nor wrong. What matters is how they affect you. It is natural to get into a relationship, it is natural for it to break, it is natural to cry, and it is natural to remember it again and again.
The practical solution I see is to give yourself time. Things change. Emotions are temporary. Today, if everything leaves me, what remains is me. Understand that everything has to leave eventually. The practical solution is to give yourself time and be patient. Things will get better slowly, and then a new life will begin.