How to View Your Life the Right Way and Move Forward Correctly
How to View Your Life the Right Way and Move Forward Correctly.
See, in life, there are many times when everything seems fine, yet we feel like everything is going wrong. This stage happens to everyone. Even if everything is perfect, and there are no real problems, the problem might be more fundamental and internal rather than external. There are two types of problems: one related to the outside world and the other depending on your psychology.
Understand that physical problems, like a pain in your body, are tangible. But psychological issues, like a mind that isn't functioning correctly, are a different matter. The question is how to change your way of thinking to live in reality and be happy.
When we say "be happy," we are often implying that we are currently unhappy. Our mind projects that if we are talking about happiness, we must be unhappy. For example, if I want to be successful, it means I am currently a failure. So what is the cause of this sadness? It's often loneliness.
Throughout our evolutionary history, societal thinking has shaped our thoughts. Movies and web series portray that a person alone is sad, but that's not the reality. The more a person is alone, the happier they are. You might not believe it, but if you were in front of me, you would see in my eyes that the more alone a person is, the happier they are. Because loneliness is not about being without people. It's about understanding that you can never truly be separated from others in a world full of people.
We still get entangled in our psychological patterns and thoughts because our expectations are always based on illusions. Our thinking never acts on reality. We have created an illusion that something perfect will make us happy.
For example, in relationships, we often connect the term with concepts like girlfriend or boyfriend, which are illusions. Relationships are not limited to such labels. Whatever you believe and think, apply critical thinking to it. Only then will your thinking be capable of seeing reality.
When we feel like we have no one, it's not true. Someone is always there, but we expect someone to understand us, talk to us, and involve us in their lives to be happy. This is a trap. Understand that if we live with someone, why should they understand us? Don't they have their own lives? If you have problems, why would they understand your problems? Instead, they would want to share their problems with you so that you understand them.
Free yourself from unnecessary tasks that waste time and energy, because that's where the sadness lies. If you understand my standpoint, you will realize that being stuck in the drama of girlfriend and boyfriend, or other such things, leads to sadness. Realizing this is important.
Building a relationship is tough because it involves understanding. If you want to be happy, you need to detach your happiness from external things. You cannot control other people's thoughts or actions, but you can control your own thoughts and actions. Focus on improving yourself, not on changing the outside world.
In my teenage years, I also experienced relationships and their consequent sadness. I learned from these experiences. If you want to build a real connection with someone, it requires deep understanding. Personally, if I think about future relationships, it will be with my future wife.
To be happy, detach yourself from temporary pleasures. Understand that such pleasures are fleeting and lead to eventual sadness. Be selfish in a way that you prioritize your own improvement. Only then can you help others.
Think profitably:
before engaging in anything, ask yourself what you will gain from it. Value your time and efforts. When you invest in something, it should have a worthwhile return.
Shift your focus from the external world to your internal world. Work on your thoughts daily. Prepare yourself to face any problem in the world with resilience.